My partner says that I’m addicted to exercise just because I work out every day. Could she be right?
John Hill, psychotherapist and counsellor, replies: Well, my partner says I’m addicted to computers because I use one every day. Her friend says my partner’s addicted to criticism because she keeps going on at me about it. As for my partner, she’s addicted to mobile phones because she’s never off one.
The point I’m making is about the misuse of the word ‘addiction’ Doing something a lot is not an addiction. You would only be an addict if you couldn’t stop. Can you stop doing exercise? Your partner is simply complaining that, because you spend hours at the gym, she feels neglected. Why not prove her wrong by missing the odd day and giving her a lot of attention instead? Or suggest she joins you (just don’t imply she needs to lose weight).
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